Q & A with Kara_Sutra

Will using a vibrator make it harder for me to orgasm with a partner?


Question:

Hey Kara_Sutra,

I've been watching the vids from your first lube video!! My question is, I've been using vibrators and things that vibrate since I was a young and I've just started having sex late last year. I haven't reached a complete orgasm yet, and I've heard that that comes with time and trust etc etc, but I'm afraid a guy wont get me off as well, or even close to, what a vibrator can.

Is that true for most women? or just because I've been using them forever? Do I have to spend the rest of my sexual life with 2 helpers (human and robot)?

Hope to hear from you soon

Answer

Hey,

wow thanks for supporting me for so long!!

as for the questions,

1.) Most women have a really hard time reaching an orgasm with a man for various reasons...vibrator or no vibrator. I still get about 15 messages A DAY from women asking me the same question about getting off with a partner, so your definitely not alone in it. I wish there was some magical advice I could give other then ~ it will come in time with trust in yourself and your partner, self confidence and knowing what you like and doing it. For now just know that your one of many women who feel this way.

I wrote an article on this subject that you might want to read, click here to view it.

2.)The vibes, for the most part anyways, have nothing to do with it. When using a vibrator your usually in a place where you are comfortable, safe, and can do what ever it is, for as long as you need to reach an orgasm. You don't have to think about the other person, whether or not their having a good time, your body, the laundry or whatever else is on your mind. You get the time you need to fully relax and enjoy the moment.

You add another person to the mix and things change. Some partners don't understand another persons needs, they might not care, or sometimes they can't do the same thing we need for as long as we need it done to reach an orgasm. That can change with open communication and consistency with your partner.

3.)No, you dont have to spend your life with 2 sexual helpers. You can if you want and I see nothing wrong with it. However that's coming from a girl who has boxes of sex toys LOL. Do what you need to get yourself off and take the time necessary with your partner to make the sex better and more stimulating for you.

For the most part I think vibrators or any kind of stimulation aid can be a great addition to ones own sexual development and exploration of the self. Not to mention a great way to learn what you like and don't like, which is something you can then later use to communicate with your partner. After all, If you don't know your own body how can you expect someone else to?

hope that helped in some way

Kara_Sutra

 

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