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I'm not sure whats going on, am I normal?

 

Question:

I got into a relationship almost a year ago (I'm now 18) and I just realized that I have a really big naughty side to me and I am starting to show it. I don't know why but just texting can sometimes get me excited and arouse me. He likes it and so do I, but people are making me feel like I'm a slut because of the way I am starting to act towards him which is making me feel bad about myself.

Is what I'm feeling normal? Am I really just a "slut"? Please help, I'm so confused!

Worried in Wisconsin

 

Answer

Dear Worried ,

In regard to your question about having feelings of sexual attraction towards your boyfriend, please know it's something that is very common and to be expected at your age. There is nothing wrong with you and it is not something to be ashamed or embarrassed about.

What you're experiencing is a natural part of puberty and something that most teens experience from between the ages of *10-17 for girls and *12-18 for boys. This change in sexual awareness and arousal is due to changes in hormones that shift the body from childhood to being capable of reproduction. *I use those numbers because they are what is commonly defined as a "teen"

Its normal, its natural and its nothing to be worried about or afraid of...its also not something you deserve to be judged for!

This is a time that should be embraced as an opportunity for you to learn about your body, what your feeling sexually and why, rather then spent worrying what other people think. That said, in regard to those who are calling you a "slut" or making you "feel like one", I suggest that you ignore them and learn to be gentler, kinder and more accepting of yourself and your new found breach into womanhood.

In an effort to avoid further name calling I suggest that you keep your private life separate from those who feel the need to pass judgment. Not everyone needs to know what your doing or saying to him. That is between you and he and no one else. If it is something that you would like to share, only do so with those that you feel comfortable with, trust and know wont have any negative feedback towards.

Also keep in mind that if they haven't yet, those who have been making you "feel like a slut" will soon discover that they too are experiencing sexual feelings towards others and like you, may not know whats going on or how to deal with it.

hope that helped,
Kara_Sutra

 

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